“He’s just not that into you.” Either we’ve heard this phrase or we’ve said this phrase at some point to someone we love (often ourselves!). After a recent frustrating experience, I’ve compiled my list below to remind me not to waste my time. Let me know if you have any others! (This works for she’s just not that into you too.)
- You instigate all forms of contact. You send the first text in the morning, you make every phone call and even suggest every date. If he’s into you, he’s thinking about you as much as you’re thinking about him – worst case scenario, you both phone each other at the same time and get a busy signal.
- He promises he will call…and doesn’t. Again. The odd missed call could mean he fell asleep or got caught up in something pressing, but chances are pretty darn good that he isn’t into you if he regularly “forgets”.
- He casually invites you to hang out and then makes other plans. Need I say more?
- He never picks you up for a date. Sometimes time is of the essence, but again, if he’s really into you, he will want to show you – by opening the car door and spending every extra moment he can with you.
- Dates are weeks apart. Okay, I know I live in Alberta, I make allowances for trades, but if you are home every night and can’t make time to see me, my spidey-senses will start tingling.
- There’s been no action. Now, full on groping on the first date is simply not cool, but if he keeps his distance after many dates, he’s either painfully shy (not a match for me) or he’s really not attracted to you. I don’t know about you but I would rather be with a man that can’t keep his hands off me than one that wants to.
- He only calls you to talk about his ex. Yep been here. Not cool.
- You never meet any of his friends and family. Unless the ‘rents live in Antarctica, if you haven’t met anyone he actually cares about within the first six months, he’s not that proud to have you on his arm.
Make all the excuses you want for the man, but if he is exhibiting the above behaviours, run, don’t walk, to the nearest exit.
After all, who wants to be with someone that really doesn’t want to be with them?